Listen and Communicate

I remember growing up watching all these romantic comedies. In those movies, it seemed no matter what the odds are or how difficult it is to win another person's heart, as long as a person tries really hard and is truly sincere, he or she eventualy finds that one transcendant love. It is like in sports, where an athlete gives his or her best in a given event, and the end result is gratification and glory! The public is always in awe with althletes who accomplish great feats, especially if they are underdogs.

Alas, the dating game and dealing with relationships is far from being a sport's game. So you can forget what all those romantic movies have inspired us guys. There will always be those that are attracted to the really famous, handsome, rich or powerful. What's essential to most people is communication, being a good listener, and gaining another's trust. Those are the basis for any good relationship.

It is easy to make the mistake of being a macho man, or do whatever may seem cool and romantic as in those movies. The truth is, no matter how sincere or genuine one may be, it can send the wrong message. Once things get started on the wrong foot, it is rather difficult to make ammends and correct the foolish things that were done, unfortunately. So listen and communicate well, for real life stories like "Pride & Prejudice" do not really exist. First impressions are like egg shells, once they are broken, it is almost impossible to put them back together, regardless of your good heart and soul.